"Mother's are like glue, even when you can't see them, they're still holding the family together." - Susan Gale
I love this quote, but at the same time I hate this quote. These words encompass both the beauty and the pressure of being a mother.
As a mom, I often find myself believing that it is my duty to hold it all together. After all, when I stop trying to hold it all together, it’s then that it all seems to come falling down… The house is a mess, the kids are overtired and fighting and hungry, I’m tired, hungry and cranky and my husband and I are getting stressed because everyone’s acting CRAZY.
So, I try my best to hold it all together; I try to create a perfectly balanced schedule… not too much screen time, enough time outside, play time, nap time, extracurricular activities; I try to create a perfectly balanced diet… vitamins and minerals that will help my kids to grow and my family to thrive, food that they will actually eat; I try to create habits and routines like chore time, prayer time, family fun day that will keep us all balanced emotionally and spiritually. I try to create a plan that will keep my home, my family and our life happy and peacefu
I try to do what’s best for my family. I try to do all the things. But I often find myself worrying… are the kids getting too much screen time? Is that show they’re watching appropriate? Are they eating enough? Are they doing enough? Are they doing too much?
Are they happy enough? Are they spoiled? Do they have enough responsibility? Am I teaching them the right lessons? Is my husband happy? AM I DOING ENOUGH TO HOLD IT ALL TOGETHER?... How can I possibly hold all of this together?!
Do you ever feel this way? The truth is, YOU DON'T HAVE TO hold it all together. YOU are NOT meant to hold it all together. You can strive and struggle in your own strength and knowledge to find the prefect way, but there is an easier way. A way that doesn’t leave you stressed and overwhelmed... You have a savior who is all powerful and all knowledgeable who holds it all together and you do not have to do His job.
The bible tells us in Colossians 1:17 “…He is before all things, and in him all things hold together.”
Not only does He hold ALL things together, but he promises to hold YOUR things together by ensuring you and your family have the things that you need.
Matthew 6:26 illustrates how our heavenly Father cares for us. “Look at the birds of the air: they neither sow not reap nor gather into barns, and yet our heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not of more value than they?”
Jesus tells us, we are not to worry or be anxious about the cares of this life because our heavenly Father knows our needs and He will be sure they are taken care of.
Matthew 6:31 says “Therefore do not be anxious, saying, ‘What shall we eat? Or ‘what shall we drink? Or ‘What shall we wear?’ For the Gentiles seek after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them all.”
Instead, He gives us a different focus – “seek first the Kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things will be added to you.”
If you’re a busy Mom like me, you may be thinking “But I don’t have time to ‘seek the kingdom of God’! I barely have time to take care of my daily responsibilities!”
God knows we are busy and he knows our responsibilities can be overwhelming. That is exactly why He urges us to seek His kingdom. When we seek the Kingdom of God, it has the power to transform everything about our lives. When we seek the kingdom of God, we receive the fruits of His spirit:
Fear is replaced with faith. We are able to let go of the worry of what will happen if we’re not able to hold it all together. Instead we have faith in God’s plan and we trust that His plan for us, for our children and for our loved ones is good.
Impatience and impulsiveness are replaced with patience, kindness, gentleness and goodness. We are gentler with our children and kinder to our spouse. The love of Jesus radiates through our homes.
Sadness and discontent are replaced with joy and peace. Even when we walk through struggle and pain, we are able to see the goodness in our lives.
The Holy Spirit begins to move in our lives. We can see the hand of God working in our circumstances. We begin to decipher His voice. We can turn to Him for guidance and wisdom in all things and He will direct us.
God tells us to seek His kingdom because there is power, knowledge and wisdom in His truths. Through His Holy Spirit His knowledge and wisdom empower us to gracefully, bravely and wisely walk through whatever life brings. You don’t have to worry that your wisdom and knowledge are not good enough, you have the opportunity to seek God and ask Him what the next right step is.
James 1:5 says “If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you.”
God tells us to seek His kingdom because He offers us rest. You don’t have to strive in your own strength (eventually you will get weary). You can seek God and He will be your strength. You can do all things through Him who strengthens you! (Philippians 4:13)
Set your focus on the kingdom of Jesus and His Holy Spirit will equip you to be a better Mom and Wife. He will show you how to be a better employee or business owner. He will enable you to be a better friend and sister. He will empower you to be the woman He has created you to be.
You don't need to worry, struggle and strive to hold it all together. Turn to Jesus who holds all things together. When you need wisdom, knowledge, grace or patience, seek His kingdom and all these things will be added unto you!
At the Nourished Mom my mission is to help you apply biblical truths to your life. Sure, it sounds great, but how do you live this out? Let’s break this down and talk about real, practical steps you can take to seek the kingdom of God.
First of all, what does it even mean to seek the kingdom of God?...
The original Greek word used in Matthew 6:33 is translated as: to seek in order to find out by thinking, meditating, reasoning, to enquirer into. We can seek God simply by finding out who he is (His character) and thinking through, His lessons, examples and commandments. The bible is our best resource when it comes to seeking God.
Start by setting goals to create habits that enable you to learn more about God.
Some simple habits to start include:
Reading the bible
Journaling and thinking about what you read and what it means to you
Memorizing bible verses
Remembering/reciting bible verses when you need wisdom or support
Listening to Christian music
Discuss what you learn with others
Seeking God doesn’t have to be an elaborate, complicated pursuit. God meets us in our everyday moments. How we seek God will look a little different for each person. For you, seeking God could be reciting scripture while nursing your newborn or singing ‘Jesus Loves Me’ with your toddler. Maybe it could be listening to a sermon while you fold laundry or letting your kids watch a TV show while you read the bible and journal. Perhaps it’s listening to Christian music on your commute to work or memorizing scripture over your lunch break. The key is to make this doable and practical for your life.
I’ve created a step by step action plan worksheet that you can apply to your life right away.
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In love and health,